Getting divorced

[soloist]

Ooops! I forgot
to post the
video. H-
ere it
is.










I
also
posted
on the ma-
in board just i-
n case anyone else
may be interested in v-
iewing the contents of it.

[Shawn]

There will always be things that'll sting us more than others and when it comes
to our children and what affects them, it's understandable. You want the b-
est for them and anything that'll worry them or upset them captures ou-
r interest, because no parent (no right minded parent) wants to see
their child suffer or experience pain of any type... so I could und-
erstand how that Dr. could get you to the point that he did. I
am hoping that your son's condition improves. Sometimes
when a bad situation is focused on, it creates a probl-
em where there wasn't one before. There was a v-
ideo I've seen that explained this. I'll post it be-
low after this text is concluded. Hopefully f-
or the next session, you and your daugh-
ter both were able to attend and by
now have discovered what may h-
ave been causing the problem-
s for your son. I know you're
pleased that the divorce
is almost over (by no-
w it should be, rig-
ht?). It sounds l-
ike she's not
prepared
and th-
at w-
orks w-
ell in your
favor. I know
you're glad that y-
our daughter is back i-
n school. When you have a
child who is doing well, they do-
n't want to miss anything which is un-
derstandable. Any drop in their progress
makes them feel like they're falling behind w-
hich is understandable. I'm sure she's glad to be b-
ack on track as well. Physical education may not be h-
er strong point, but if she was doing well all before, this sh-
ould have been taken in consideration when issuing the grade, b-
ut who's to say. As long as she give it her all, she should be ok. I'm do-
ing well, though myself and my new friend are still trying to work on the b-
asics which is going to take a long time based on the progress made so far. I'm tr-
ying to be patient... but I'm thinking that Job of the Bible had it much more easier than I.

The video was interesting to watch. Sounds like something the kids mom would do lol
I am not sure where my son got that he was hearing voices. No one has ever said anything about that.
His condition will get better with time,the therapist is focusing on what his mom done and allowed and having him talk about it and teaching him coping skills along the way.
This past week hasn't been to bad with him,just a few things he done he got in trouble for,but overall,it's been a pretty good week. He has stayed in his room and away from everyone more then usual and it's to be expected with his condition.Sometimes he just needs time alone to do his own thing.
I'm confident that he can overcome all this with the help of the new therapist and how he is approaching it as where before,the place he was at,was not addressing the real issues he had and just said it was a normal thing for kids his age.I knew better then that and the therapist confirmed it when he got the medical records from them. It's going to be a slow process,but it will get better.

I sent the ex a certified letter which she hasn't picked up yet from the post office so she will be going to court not knowing what is on that paper I sent.I had to file it in court also and show I did send it certified. She is making a huge mistake by not getting it,but it will make things better for me hopefully. I will be happy when this is all done and over with and I can move on with my life. I won't be dating anytime soon,just going to spend time with the kids and get my son better. Right now that is more important to me then anything else.

[soloist]

Laughs! She use subliminal suggestion? That's some fine degree of manipulation
(laughs). But really, sometimes we tend to create problems where there w-
asn't any previously when we focus on things that we probably should n-
ot even dwell on. When I was young, I used to get depressed and ha-
d anxiety, but I wasn't told about what I had... so I never though-
t of it as a problem. It wasn't until I was older when I learned
what I was experiencing at the time... and back then, bec-
ause the focus wasn't on the ailment, I didn't know I ha-
d an ailment at all, and I got over it through recrea-
tion and my faith (plus my confidence level incr-
easing from experiencing some challenging le-
ssons in life). I'm sure your son will pull th-
rough in time with continual support an-
d the right environment to grow up i-
n (one without another mad-wom-
an... laughs). I guess this ex wi-
ll learn just like the last one
did about legalities... the
hard way (laughs). You
have done your part
and that's all that
matters. I don't
blame you fo-
r not want-
ing to d-
ate a-
ny-
time
soon. M-
aybe I shoul-
d have waited a
bit longer before g-
etting involved in ano-
ther relationship myself, b-
ut for what it's worth, I'm lear-
ning quite a bit... and I've grown s-
ome as well. Also, I've learn a little mo-
re about myself... and that's key to any re-
lationship in my opinion. I guess time will tell.

[Shawn]

Yeah she wasn't happy with the notice but she'll get over it. The divorce is final now and she has until Jan 22nd to get all her stuff or I can charge her storage fees.
We had to change things up a bit and come to a very quick agreement or we would not of gotten the divorce on the 30th. I feel we worked together and hammered it out within a few minutes and came to an agreement on debts.
I think the Judge was a bit impressed how we handled it and didn't want make a new date to go back to court. I didn't get everything I asked for and neither did she,but I think we were both satisfied with the agreement.
I won't be dating for awhile.I really am not ready for that and still have things I am dealing with myself.
I need to move. Where I am is really bothering me mentally.I wake up a lot and look or feel next to me thinking she is still here. I have no idea why I am doing this for so I think moving will help.
I have been seeing a Therapist myself and it has helped,but I think the whole relationship took a toll on me. There are things which happened I have not posted here and won't.I feel it would be way to personal for me.It's been a bit rough dealing with it,so I take it a day at a time. I would never take her back,in fact I have not spoke to her since court and won't until she gets her stuff from here and after that,I will have no reason to speak to her again. I can say she isn't like the kids mom and bothering me or making any threats.She keeps to herself and I do the same.

Speaking of the ex,I had to track her down to get a check cashed in both of our names. My half was enough to rebuild my computer,which was on it's last leg. She asked is she can call the kids.I said gee IDK I will have to ask them if they want to talk to you.She didn't like it but I wasn't lying. The kids won't talk to her. And SOB she had to ask why. WOW that just blew me away. I asked her why she would ask such a stupid F'n question for. She looked puzzled and confused so I told her why and I said if you dump your husband and get some help,I may consider a visit here and there. Not that I would,but It would be funny if she actually divorced him,but after nearly 6 years,highly unlikely. So I had a pretty interesting week last week and was able to screw with the kids moms head a bit,which I have been waiting to do for a while. I also screwed her out of some money.I didn't tell her how much the check was for and told her I would give her x amount of dollars of it if she will meet somewhere to cash it. She agreed so I ended up with 2/3s of it. I feel it is fair since I do pay for pretty much everything as far as the kids go.$300 in CS a month doesn't go far.
I did agree to let the kids talk to her mom on the phone and only because the kids want to. I gave them the choice to do so. They talked today and my daughter was telling her about everything she is doing at school and her plans after high school. They thought I would fail and not be able to raise the kids and I done better then they would of ever thought. It was never said out loud I would fail,but I know it was expected and didn't happen. So we will see how this works now with the phone calls to their grandma.