Big changes coming

[Shawn]

I'm sure you all remember what I endured twice already in the past year. You'd think I would of learned to stay away.But I didn't. So now it has happened again.
But this time is different. Ok you are probably thinking,WTH am I talking about. I'm going to be a Dad again next year.I found out today.(What a way to get woke up) It is the same woman I have had a little bit of a rocky relationship with and things have improved a lot since May,when she had the 2nd abortion. She was on birth control but it wasn't enough. Something has kept us together for this long and especially all that we have been through in the last 1 1/2 years,we have had our moments where we didn't talk for a week sometimes two,but that is all behind us.I did ask her to go to a few therapy sessions so that we can work out any remaining problems we have,which are very minor but could spell disaster if something happened.
She didn't even mention abortion this time,she was naming possible doctors and planning on how to bring the kids into all this. We have been seeing each other since August without anyone knowing so it will be a bit of a shock when this comes out. It wasn't what we were planning on,but it happened so she has finally decided it's time to have one and raise it together. We have it planned for her and her daughter to move in around April.She will be about 6 months along by then and hopefully everything falls into place like we want. We are taking things slow with the kids,they don't know anything yet and won't until next year.They will know we are together,we are going to dinner after Thanksgiving with all the kids and start working slowly bringing them back into the relationship. I am also going to bring it up with my kids therapist as she will with her daughters so that any problems can be worked out before the move. It's going to be a long process and we have it planned out to where the first night they will stay overnight here isn't until the middle of Feb. I think that will be slow enough and give time for the kids to adjust to this. She is also willing to go to my kids therapy appts and talk with them if they feel they need to.
I never thought I would become a Father again at my age but it's what hand was dealt to me and I am going to have the enjoyment of raising another child.
I expect a little backlash from my family since she is of a different race and they didn't think we were together still but they will get over it or not come around.She only sees a problem with her sister for a few weeks after we tell her and then that is expected to go away.
I have a roller coaster of a life,many bad things have happened to me but there are moments like this that make it all worth it. I know my daughter will be excited about this,she has always liked being around babies,her daughter has asked her a few times when she was going to get a brother or sister,so I know she will also be looking forward to the new addition and start of our new family.

[Diabolique]

Congratulations, Shawn!!! Hope everything works out as planned.
Wishing you all the best and much happiness!

Just make sure the ex doesn't get in the middle.

[soloist]

Unexpected indeed! I too congratulate
you on the newest member of you-
r family. That was quite the sh-
ock for you I'm sure. I just h-
ope that there are no iss-
ues from this woman
like there was fro-
m your ex. You
don't need d-
rama com-
ing from
two di-
recti-
ons
!

(Congratulations, Shawn...)

[Shawn]

Thanks guys. I already have plans for my ex if she comes back around.The court order will be mentioned and I will make it clear that if she calls or comes by,I will file reports and then file contempt charges on her. I'm sure she doesn't want to spend anytime in jail. I'm done playing her games as well as the kids.
Me and my g/f talked tonight and decided it would be best to let my daughter know what is going on.She is 15 and still has some issues left over from her mom and is in therapy for it so we want to make sure she is more then ready to accept the changes about to take place.
Wed night she was worried and stressed about all this but I woke up this morning with a text saying she is getting excited now and isn't letting what others say get to her,mainly what her sister will say about her getting pregnant.We had talked about it and she is starting to catch on to the idea that things should be about us,not everyone else.I've been trying to get her to see that for the last year and finally I got her to listen to me. I was over there tonight and she had some of the baby stuff left over from her daughter we were going through. I know she is a good mom to her daughter,so I don't have any worries about her parenting skills.As far as her doing what my ex done,she knows I will be a big part of the babies life even if things don't work out between us,she knows I don't turn my back on my kids under any circumstances.You remember what I went through with my ex and I could of walked away without the kids but didn't. We get along just fine and I really don't see any problems between us,it's the kids I worry about. That is why we are doing everything we can to ensure things go smoothly and we expect some bumps in the road but we'll get past them.

[Frong]

Hey, mazel tov. Glad to hear your girlfriend is taking a positive attitude toward the matter this time, so that you can have the baby together and have it be a positive addition to your life.

[IJzebel]

Congratulations! babies rule!


Yeah I'm biased.

[Shawn]

We have a due date now,July 12th. She is 7 weeks along and everything is finally going good.Had a little bit of a rough patch with her sister this week since she just found out but it's over with now.
We go back Jan 3rd to hear the heartbeat and I am going to try and record the sound on my phone so the kids can hear.

We have decided my house is way to small so we are looking at a few apartments that are 4 bedroom and planning to live together next year,after the holidays are over with.
If we have to live in an apartment I have to figure a way to still be able to play the drums,not giving them up.I can buy some mutes and go that route and it's going to suck but I am not giving up. Just cutting back.
Speaking of which I picked up a few more cymbals(like I needed them) and it's just crazy big with a lot of cymbals. Got a few more to buy,I found a different efx cymbal I fell in love with and have a 10" one and want a 16" one also.It has holes cut out and sounds trashy like a China and like a crash cymbal all in one,just a neat sound.